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The First Trimester | TMI

The First Trimester | TMI

The First Trimester | TMI

After learning about my pregnancy, I instantly went over to blogs to read about other women’s experiences throughout their pregnancy. It’s about being prepared, y’know? So I thought it might be a good way to keep track (for future reference) and possibly help others with their experiences.

My First Trimester

I was already five weeks pregnant when I finally found out – I don’t know whether that’s a long time or not, but for me it felt like I hadn’t realized for such a long time. You think you know your body but it often throws surprises right at you.

Something I didn’t know about early pregnancy were the cramps; at first I thought my stomach cramps were from Irritable Bowel Syndrome. They were the most painful cramps I have experienced (I’ve yet to go through childbirth so that might change.) For about three weeks the cramps were relentless – it felt like there was a knife stabbing and twisting my stomach. I hate going to the doctor so I refused to get checked out.

After the second week of cramping I started to notice that my breasts were very tender which did raise a red flag. I googled the symptoms “cramps and tender breasts” only to find out that those are early symptoms of pregnancy, so it was time to go get a test.


April 13

April 13 was the day we found out I was pregnant. It came as a huge shock because I was always told that it would be very difficult for me to conceive; both my Mother and I had/have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome and very irregular periods (which is why the missed period wasn’t a big deal to me.)

In all honesty I always imagined this path of life that I was destined to take; start my career, buy a house, get married and then have children. When I learned about the pregnancy I realized that it completely flipped my life path inside-out. Still trying to find a career that I love, not owning a house and being unmarried I felt like a complete failure. How was I supposed to tell my parents the news? Would they be upset? How would my boyfriend handle it?

The day after finding out about the pregnancy my Mother passed away; that alone felt like a sword through my heart. I had lost the person that wanted to confide in most. The pregnancy felt like a nuisance after that – what am I supposed to do? What am I supposed to expect? I am lucky enough to have a caring boyfriend who has supported me throughout these crazy three months.

Life Doesn’t Always go According to Plan

I am a planner; I like to be organized and go through life as I expect. When things are thrown at me I don’t know how to handle them. In a perfect world I would be working in a career that I love, owning a house and be married. In the real world though I work a job that supports me, we were able to purchase a house and I have a loving boyfriend who is there with me through thick and thin. I may not have checked the boxes with the same definition, but I am where I need to be.

It’s taken me a long time to accept where I am in my life. With an unexpected pregnancy I always thought that I would have an abortion. I know it’s a taboo topic, but that’s the mindset I have always had. Come the time that I was to get pregnant I wanted to make sure that I could provide for the child without worrying about money. I wanted to save up some money for them and be prepared; if I wasn’t ready I always thought that an abortion would be the easiest way to handle the situation.

Until I found out I was pregnant. After telling my boyfriend the news he instantly starting asking about names and the look of excitement on his face was so heartwarming. I am so lucky to have someone like that.

I just couldn’t have an abortion; knowing that there was a little heartbeat that was growing inside of me was a life that wanted to be lived. The timing with my Mother passing away was another loss that I didn’t want to go through – it may sound weird but I like to hope that my Mother’s soul has touched it in some way or another. (yes, it might be a bunch of hokey but that’s okay!)


The Pain was Worth it

That’s what I keep telling myself. Those cramps were absolutely horrendous, although I’m 100% certain they won’t compare to childbirth at all. I was lucky to have no morning sickness and I never lost my appetite. In fact, during the first trimester I ended up gaining 10lbs (which you’re not really supposed to do.)

Constipation was a real problem as well. After introducing more fiber into my diet it has been better, but throughout the first few weeks it was very uncomfortable. Along with acne due to the hormone shift I haven’t really been feeling quite myself.

The fatigue is intense and awful; you can wake up and feel like you haven’t slept at all. I would come home from work at 5:30 eat dinner and be in bed for 7pm on some nights. At work I would feel extremely fatigued and I don’t know how I managed to get through the days. With only a 30 minute break I was unable to nap when I needed and wanted to.Β To be honest, a lot of the past three months has been spent sleeping when I can.Β 

First Trimester Milestones

At 5 weeks we found out I was pregnant.

At 12 weeks we had our first ultrasound and saw the little heartbeat growing.

At 14 weeks we were able to hear the heartbeat for the first time.

I did not expect this post to be so long, but here we are! I hope that in some way this can be helpful for someone else who is expecting to be pregnant or is currently expecting. I have been so incredibly lucky to have a fairly easy first trimester (symptoms-wise) other than fatigue, constipation and cramps it’s been a total breeze. Here’s hoping that my energy can come back in the second trimester so I can enjoy the sunny days!

If you’ve been through pregnancy before, how was your first trimester?

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  • Omg Lindsey!!! This is all so crazy! I’m sorry to hear about your mother but am so excited for you! (Sorry for so many exclamation marks but !!!). It’s good to hear that you’re happy and pumped for this path change. Can’t wait to hear more!

    xx Pia

  • I was as tired as you are, and I had some cramps that freaked me out because I would always fear that I would loose the child. I lost one before, at week 9, just a few days after I had found out that I was pregnant, so that fear stuck with me until the very end of my first pregnancy.
    The fatigue was the worst with both pregnancies. I remember once falling asleep on the floor of our living room while being alone with my then 1.5 year old daughter. She kept playing for herself a little while and woke me by trying to climb on my back eventually. But my energy came back around week ten or eleven, so hang in there!
    Just like you I always thought I’d have an abortion if the time wasn’t right. Now my situation was a little different, as we had actually decided that we wanted kids at that time, but ever since I knew that there was a living thing inside me I got so protective and madly in love that the possibility of ever having an abortion seemed crazy. Which should by no means question anyone elses decision, I am a firm believer that a woman should always be able to decide for herself. It is just how I felt at that moment.
    In the end I learned that no matter how hard you plan, life happens, and even though I had everything prpared, my life has changed quite a bit since having both kids, starting with where I live and ending with where I work. But everything is great and I would never want to miss both my beautiful children ever again.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

    • Oh my goodness, that would be heart wrenching! It seems like fatigue is a symptom that everyone feels… what a bummer! Luckily I think I’m starting to feel a little bit more energetic in the “honeymoon” stage of pregnancy.

      Yes, it’s all about personal decision and it’s amazing that we can live in countries that do allow us to make those decisions. It really does seem to change once you realize that there’s a tiny human life growing within you… Glad to hear that your babies were well worth it! πŸ™‚

  • I couldn’t say it any better than, Anne. Life happens and it always happens for a reason but sometimes it takes a long while to make sense. You are definitely lucky to have such a supporting partner in your life, Lindsey, it makes a whole world of differences and I’m speaking from experience. xx

    • Yes for sure! I’m so grateful for him LOL. Especially on those nights where you just NEED something (oranges have been my thing recently…)

  • I love that you’re keeping us up-to-date on your pregnancy! I’ve never been pregnant so I’m always interested in hearing about people’s experiences. It’s funny you mention those cramps because I get them always a weak before and sometimes after my period lol (I have mild endometriosis). Life sure is funny, and I also have that though that if I got an unexpected pregnancy I would have an abortion, but I guess it really can change once it actually happens. I don’t think you need to feel embarrassed or that it’s silly about thinking your pregnancy and baby could be touched by your mother. When you announced your pregnancy after the sad news I really though that way too that it was a beautiful sign from the universe just for you. Anyways I’m looking forward to seeing your journey through pregnancy! <3


    • Yeah! It’s weird. Endometriosis sounds like an awful time. If it’s anything like the cramps I felt then I feel so sorry that you have to go through that each month.. oh my goodness I can’t even imagine. It definitely depends on your circumstances and where you are in life. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with abortions – and I’m glad we live in a country where we have that option!
      Thanks for reading, Stacey!

  • This absolutely an amazing post, truly inspiring for many ladies, I love it and love your blog too. Thank you for sharing, waiting for the next exiting post!!!


  • Nadia

    I literally had to start typing this comment at least 3 times…
    I am so sorry for your loss, sweetie. It’s heartbreaking and devastating but I do believe in the fact that they was no coincidence in you finding out about the pregnancy the day before. Your momma will always be there for you looking out for you. And the life in you means one thing – she lives on in you and now in your child <3
    Thank you so much for sharing all the updates and pouring out your thoughts, honey. I would never consider an abortion and your own words couldn't describe better the reason why – "knowing that there was a little heartbeat that was growing inside of me was a life that wanted to be lived". Even though your plan didn't go as you thought it would, this baby is coming just at the right time and everything else will work out.
    I do look forward to starting a family and it's been a nightmare with everyone attacking me (yup, first asking, now attacking) as in "why are you not having kids?" and I have no doubt there is a lot of gossip as to why we aren't. People forget to take their noses out of someone else's life. They also don't get the idea of us enjoying spending our time together, just the two of us, for now. When we are ready and when the life that wants to be lived is ready, it will happen πŸ™‚
    I look forward to more updates from you hon <3
    xox Nadia

    • Thank you Nadia! Yes, I’m hoping that in some weird way it was all meant to be. I’m glad to have a partner that is so supporting as well. It definitely makes a whole world of difference!
      It’s funny, as soon as a couple gets married the baby talk starts happening. Sometimes it takes some time and you need that time to grow and spend as a couple for sure! With the world the way it is right now it’s almost scary to bring a child into it. Although I’m sure everything will be fine…

      Thank you for your lovely comment Nadia <3

  • Ahhh Lindsey! Congratulations! And my condolences about your mom :(.
    I’m looking forward to updates on your pregnancy so I can prepare myself when that time comes for me.

    Maria | Pink Petals

  • How did I miss this post?!? I’m so excited for you! I realize that this is not how you had planned things to go, but you seem to have accepted well that things don’t always go as planned.
    I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother. I didn’t have my mother around when I was pregnant either, but I would talk to her like if she was there, I’d tell her what I was feeling and such. It helped me.
    I posted about my pregnancy journey on my blog if you’re interested in reading it:

  • Not gonna lie, when I fist found out the news on Instagram, I was kinda shocked because well, that’s my usual response for when I find out anyone younger than me is expecting a child LOL. Congratulations though!! Life rarely goes according to plan and you never know where it takes you despite your best intentions to get your ducks in a row before committing to marriage and children, but eh, life’s a challenge. Shout-out to your boyfriend for being super supportive though! (But then again, considering you two are going to have a kid together, he /better/ be supportive, haha) (On another note, I feel like you should watch Jane the Virgin, if you don’t already! Unexpected pregnancy meets telenovela meets amazing cast = one of my favourite heartfelt shows that kinda explores and discusses Jane’s unexpected pregnancy after she was accidentally artificially inseminated)

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