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Coming Out (As a Blogger)

coming out as a blogger

The idea of telling your family/ friends that you’ve started a blog is rather scary idea (at least in my opinion) in fact, I felt embarrassed when I asked my boyfriend about the idea of it almost a year ago. In order to explain the idea to him I had to make sure I thought of an answer to the question: why?

In short, there’s so many reasons why. Everyone does it for different reasons: whether you’re travelling abroad and want to keep a journal, you want to share your OOTD/ FOTD or whether you love the community and want to share your thoughts with like-minded people.

The keyword here is share. So why did I want to start a blog? To share.

In response to this, you receive “yeah, but there’s facebook, twitter, instagram, snapchat etc.” Yes, there is. But you don’t have full control over the design of these platforms- when you start a blog it becomes your space. This website is my own, and with that there’s pride over finding the perfect theme, sorting out hosting and owning your domain.

In all honesty, I haven’t really broadcasted my ‘website’ to my friends other than a select few. (If you’re one of the select few then either you’re a great stalker or I really trust you.) When I began this blog, I was afraid of judgement. Afraid that by showing this side of myself people would somehow think less of me.

It has taken nine months for me to get the courage to say ‘fuck it.’ Who cares? I am proud of myself for creating this space, I am proud to be in a community with some other amazing people who are so supportive and I’m happy that I have a small space to call my own. Sure, it’s not like I make millions of dollars off this website, but that’s why it’s called a hobby.

do what makes you happy

No matter what anyone says, I’ll always be the biggest critic of myself therefore what is the point in being afraid to tell people “I have a website!” absolutely nothing. I’ve finally come to the realization that it doesn’t matter what people think of you. Do what makes you happy—some people like fishing, dancing or collecting stamps. I like blogging. Hey, maybe in the future it will come to a point where I can do it full-time, but for now I’m still studying Interior Design and continuing on with the rest of my life normally. At least now I’m not blogging in the closet.

P.S- Sorry for this impromptu personal post, but it felt like time to let everyone know!

What makes you happy?

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  • I kept my blog a secret for 5 years from most of my friends and family and I kinda regret it! Everyone is so supportive, they couldn’t believe I’ve been hiding it for so long! I never promoted my blog, always kept it as my little safe place; I totally understand where you are coming from! ♥

    Rhenicia | Beauty By Rhenicia

    • lindseyelyse

      Oh my goodness! That’s a really long time. Glad I’m not the only one 🙂

    • Wow Rhenicia, That is a super long time! But you have to do what’s best for you!

  • it’s always tricky deciding whether or not you want to make a blog public to your family and friends. yea, it’s a public forum but telling people close to you that you have one is wierd. i totally understand. i feel like blogging lets people see another side of you, and when you tell those that are close to you about it that gives them the opportunity to see that side of you! it took me a bit before i told everyone, but actually, i have tons of people from my hometown that compliment me on my blog which i find to be pretty cool! great post. i loved it.
    if you get the chance i’d love for you to check out my blog! hope you have a great week! 🙂
    love, rach.
    So, hi

    • lindseyelyse

      Thanks Rach! I appreciate receiving such thoughtful comments and that’s exactly why I love the blogging community! 🙂
      I will definitely check yours out!

  • It’s such a brave move to share your blog with the people you know and love… and consequently any people you don’t get on with but it’s so worth it in the end . I only started telling people about my blog recently since I’ve started college , I just keep telling myself ” Marianne, no one cares, they have better things to do than spend there time taking the mic about something that’s nothing to do with them ” and i’ve found that thought very reasurring when i’m being silly and worried about it 🙂

    Lots of love, Marianne xxx

    http://myhappybubblexx.blogspot.co.uk/

    • lindseyelyse

      Yes! Haha that’s great! Thanks for the lovely comment hun 🙂

  • My blog is still a secret, well sort of. My family knows that I’m a blogger but they have no understanding about what a blogger does. Few of my friends know about my blog but it’s only a handful. I guess I am still very shy about my blog, I kept telling myself maybe one day I would be a bigger, better blogger and I would be more open to telling everyone about it.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

    • lindseyelyse

      I guess that this point I’m the total opposite- none of my family knows! I completely understand that mindset, like you need to prove that it’s done something good for you! But you are a great blogger and you have nothing to be shy about 🙂

  • Claire

    I really relate to this, putting yourself out there is so difficult and I was very antsy about people finding out about my blog in the early days. Now everyone is so supportive and it’s just normal, which is lovely – however I’m now having the same stress over starting Youtube! Anything new is always scary, but worth biting the bullet and going for it 🙂

    Claire | Stylingo.co.uk xx

  • My family knows that I have a blog, and my mother is my most faithful reader, but the others don’t really care. My husband knows, of course, but other than that only a few chosen friends know. I am very secretive about the blog because work and privat life do mingle occasionally, and it would have been horrible if the fact that I write a beauty blog would have become known at work. I don’t think that will ever change, but after 1 1/2 years I have come to peace with it.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

    • lindseyelyse

      Oh man, I feel like my Mum would stalk and comment non-stop! (Not that it’s a bad thing!) I guess if you don’t want to have your current job affected by what you do in your private life that totally makes sense!

  • I was the opposite and told all my friends and family (mostly family) ever since I started my blog almost 5 years ago haha, I do admit though once I actually decided to make my instagram more blog related and just putting myself out there I was shy at first. No matter what, people are going to talk whether they’re close to you or not but as long as you enjoy what you’re doing that’s all that matters!

    • lindseyelyse

      Really!? Wow! Haha hopefully I’ll warm up to the idea as time goes by.

  • Wooohoo congrats on coming out of the blogging closet! Your blog is amazing too and you should be so proud of yourself! <3 I mean having your own blog is pretty damn cool might I dare say! <3 I was kind of the opposite way around to most people, when I made my blog *I announced it on Facebook that I was going too make one… couldn't back out of it then XD LOL* I started a Facebook page and got friends to like it and my family knew about it as well and I shared posts for anyone to read it. I really struggled with the idea that it wasn't good enough because I wasn't getting heaps of likes "Yes I fell down that trap" although I had good feed back from those that read it, I ended up not posting that much on my Facebook page after awhile and struggling with it and then my flatmate at the time had a boyfriend that earned a nice amount of money through blogging and told me that you find and interact with other bloggers… so in other words I was kind of oblivious to the blogging community XD LOL! Now I love it!. I kept my Youtube quiet for awhile my family and a few close friends knew when I started through… I just needed to venture out into a place where I could grow, learn and figure it out without people knowing per say, now it gets shared through Facebook for anyone to watch.
    http://rainbow-roseblossom.blogspot.co.nz/

    • lindseyelyse

      Thank you, Rainbow! 🙂

  • Most people don’t know I have a blog because it embarrasses me. I know it’s strange to say, but it’s true. Besides, everyone already thinks my obsession with makeup is crazy, now I’m writing about it too!

    Batty4Beauty.com

    • lindseyelyse

      I was in the same situation! Before starting a blog I was kind of ‘meh’ about makeup but I definitely appreciate it a lot more now! It’s awesome to have people who visit because they share the same obsession though! 🙂

  • I don’t publicly announce my blog because I feel that once people who know me on a personal basis start reading it, I have to censor myself to some level. Because of that, I prefer to let strangers read it versus personal friends and family. But recently, I’ve been more inclined to tell people and they have been quite supportive of it 🙂

    http://www.deasynoel.com

    • lindseyelyse

      That’s what I thought at first, but I guess I’m kind of in the mindset that I don’t really care about what other people might think now. They are very supportive!

  • Great post!
    Love,
    Kisses and hugs from http://www.trangscorner.com {a lifestyle, fashion, beauty, and food blog}

    • lindseyelyse

      Thanks hun!

  • Do what makes you happy and don’t be afraid! I kept it away from my engineering friends for a looong time but they just accepted it and it was all good! 🙂 Honestly, if I didn’t have a blog I wouldn’t have as many interesting stories to tell and met so many people, hooray for being proud of it!!

    • lindseyelyse

      Thanks Whitney! That’s true, there’s so many amazing people online 🙂

  • Awesome post! I kept my blog a secret for 2 years and now kind of regret it, I should have shared it with everyone.

    xo
    http://thepinkporcelaindoll.blogspot.it

    • lindseyelyse

      Thank you! That’s true, so many people were more supportive than I originally thought!

  • I believe most of use have been through what you’ve been through. Hope you make it one day doing what you love 🙂 Oh yes, I love blogging too. A lot.

    Real Life Nerd // http://www.vivienekok.com

    • lindseyelyse

      Haha, yeah you’re probably right! Thanks 🙂

  • I totally agree, it is really nerve wracking because everyone’s reponses and thoughts are so different and you don’t know how people will react, but you have an awesome blog! xxx

    • lindseyelyse

      In short, exactly! Thanks Hun 🙂

  • Hahaha. My blog is still a secret though, or probably some people know it if they are a great stalker like you said.

    Instagram | Style Post – Do what you want ~ Styleccentric Fashion’ | BLOGLOVIN

    xo, Alyssa

    • lindseyelyse

      Hopefully one day you’ll be able to ‘come out’ too! 🙂

  • Liz

    I loved this post! I felt the same way, and still kind of do! I’ve been blogging for nearly a year now and only close friends and family really know about it. It felt so strange telling them about it because they don’t really understand.

    xo, Liz
    http://lipstickandconfetti.com

  • just found your blog on bloglovin and just followed. i’m kinda like you and have only told a select few…my family knows but not all myfriends. it is kinda weird…but you are right. do what makes you happy 🙂

    xoxo,
    geri

    http://everydaylivingnyc.blogspot.com/

  • Totally agree! There’s no shame in being a blogger, but telling friends etc outside of the blogging world might feel a bit scary to some – even though it shouldn’t be! ❤️❤️

  • Congratulations! I do understand you. I still haven’t come out as I am very afraid that my friends won’t understand it. Here, in Lithuania, blogging isn’t so common and there are lots of people who don’t even know what ‘blogging’ is. So, I am not scared that people will judge me or make fun, I am scared that they simply won’t understand it and think that I am putting my life out on the internet for all to see and that can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts that I am not a fan of. But maybe soon I will come out and will be able to say ‘eff it!’.

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

    • lindseyelyse

      That’s completely understandable! I’m sure once they see it they’ll love it 🙂

  • YES! It’s sooo nice to get to the stage where you’re like “fuck it, I’m telling the world!” I also felt, as I told more and more people, the response has been enormous. Most of my coworkers know and come up to me asking for tips and whatnot. It’s kind of reassuring to know that they trust me based on what they’ve seen or read on my site!

  • I loved this post, babe. I can relate on so many levels. Most people don’t understand what blogging is all about. Some people even mock it (which is sad).
    My family knows I have a blog, my hubby is the one who encouraged me to (finally!) start it and only a few select friends read me (I hope they do haha).
    There is a part of me that wants to share it on my personal Facebook page but then again, there is another part of me that wants to disclose it only to those who genuinely care or I think they would.
    People keep finding me on their own, and I actually don’t mind that. I’d rather have those around who do care about this big part of my life + those who share their excitement and positive vibes 🙂
    Anyway, I am happy you have a blog, and keep at it, girl!
    xox Nadia
    http://www.mielandmint.com/

    • lindseyelyse

      Thanks Hun! That’s true- actually currently I haven’t really told my family (gonna wait until I see them next!) I was surprised at how many people are so supportive though 🙂
      (I did get your comments! For some reason they go through my spam filter though…)

  • Thank you for posting this! It was / still is totally scary when your friends and family are like ‘why….?’ Not that they’re not supportive (so much positive feedback!), but my mother still refers to it as my online diary. Repeat, my online diary.
    Blogging is awesome! The support in this community is hands-down incredible! And it’s freaking hard work, but so worth it! 🙂

    -Dara

    • lindseyelyse

      Haha, oh man. That’s funny- I’m afraid to tell my Mum but I’m sure she’s probably already found it. A lot of people don’t realize how much it can take to create a decent website either and to post regularly especially!

  • Yay! Congrats! I’m still pretty private with my blog. Some very close friends and my family has a small idea. The first person I told was actually my boyfriend and he was beyond supportive. Definitely a liberating feeling!

    • lindseyelyse

      Thank you! That’s great 😀 Mine was a bit skeptical because he’s not a big fan of social media, but I think now he’s more open to it because he sees how much I love it.

  • Good on you! I started blogging about a month ago, and one of my first few posts was a very personal one so I was also afraid of judgement by people I knew by putting the link on twitter, took me a while to decide but I decided to take the plunge and I don’t regret it being public to friends now! I actually recieved so much support from it aswel! xx

    Shelise |SHELISES WORLD

  • I absolutely love this post! It took me two years to get the courage to start my blog, and I’ve still had people give me funny looks when I say that I have a blog. It’s something that I just love doing & I’m so happy that I got over my fears of what people would think! 🙂

  • I completely understand what you mean. I only tell certain people I have a blog and even then, I don’t tell them the name. My parents just assume I’m a make up junkie, but with the language and technology barrier, it’s kind of hard to explain what I do.

    Congrats on opening up about it though! Your blog is great!

  • Exactlyyy! That’s what I’ve always thinking about. I’ve been blogging since grade 6 in elementary school, until now (I am grade 2 high school now). I was active and then I abandoned it and now, I blog again. And it feels so fun. I regret why did I even stopped blogging a few years ago. It is also fun somehow to read some old posts I wrote…and feel ashamed and embarrassed but nostalgic at the same time.
    Anyway, you have a very beautiful blog, I hope we can be friends!

    Love~xx

    febiola-febby.blogspot.com

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